Oh someone please tell me!
It’s sort of funny that I’m writing to you about how to beat indecision as I’m someone who’s been plagued with it all of my life. On the other hand, I think my extensive experience with it might make just make me an expert with it, so here’s a few things I’ve learned over the years.
BUT FIRST, let me say this.
In a world of seemingly full of quick acting, sling from hip decision-makers, you might wonder what is WRONG with you for belaboring, over-thinking, agonizing, and perhaps even wallowing in a decision. And a decision that might not even be very big.
There is nothing wrong with you!!
You might be an empath, a creative, or a highly sensitive person and you literally take in more stimulus and more information from your environment. You also take in everyone else’s feelings and moods about it. And sifting through all the information, discovering what’s yours and what’s not, literally takes time.
It’s MORE work.
For empaths, it’s also a learned skill to know what feelings and energies are yours, and what in came from the outside. And some decisions, empath or not, are just hard to make, especially if it has you at a growth edge.
It’s natural and appropriate you to need more time to come to a decision.
AND, letting it go on and on can be exhausting, paralyzing and counter-productive. I know this experience all too well.
So here’s what I’ve learned has helped.
1. Accept and know yourself, know it will take you some time, but at some point soon, a light will go off and you will have clarity.
2. Do a mindset shift from “figuring out/thinking it through” to “contemplation. “ As in no pressure, just sit with the options for a couple of days like a teapot sits with a bag of tea.
3. Consider when this decision has to be made by. Often we’re freaking out about a decision that really doesn’t need to be made for a couple of months, and you’ll have much more clarity by then, when more of life has unfolded, and you have more information.
4. Only talk about it with friends or coaches who will help YOU find your most resonate choice, not tell you what they think you should do. Or instill you with fear or “shoulds.”
5. Choose a direction and go for it, knowing you can re-calibrate and re-adjust based on how you feel after the decision and after taking some action.
I’m curious what works for you! Please hit reply and let me know.
Blessings to you on this Tuesday!
Erica